I have two small children (ages 10
& 11) and at least once a day I hear the words “that’s not fair”. I can
remember back to my own childhood and uttering these same words… though I hope
not as much. :D My Dad had a response… that, at the time I hated, never understood
and certainly refused to accept or embrace. My Dad would say, “Life’s not fair”. Grrr….
What does that even mean? After all don't we have all these rules to make
things fair? What about policies, referees, democracy and laws, weren't these
things invented to make things fair?
The truth of the matter is that life is not fair… at least not in the
traditional sense of just and balanced, and certainly not in real-time. Holding
on to this expectation (seeking fair) can be incredibly frustrating and can be
a huge limiting factor. I often see this creeping into individual’s lives and
it affecting their entire life. There is a better way.
OK, ready for this… by being unfair to
yourself (consistently), you can actually give yourself an unfair advantage over
others, over time. This is true personally, professionally and especially for
organizations.
Some of the happiest people are
completely unfair. There are great studies that show that spending your money on others (TEDTalk) can dramatically increase your happiness and that buying yourself more
and more stuff can decrease it.
Some of the most successful people in
history were completely unfair. Every heard of servant leadership? President Abraham Lincoln is an excellent example of this …we need more examples like this in
today’s organizations.
Many of the best companies are unfair
as can be. Google is unfair by providing death benefits to employees. Its pretty unfair for company’s to create no layoff policies,
even during hard times.
Are there times to fight for fairness?
Are there down (rock bottom?) moments due to things not being fair? Sure, but they are a lot
more rare than you might think. By taking that unfair moment/action/element and
accepting it for what it is, pushing through it and using it as a growth
opportunity you might just be able to say, “thank you”, for it. :D
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